Perfectionsim. It’s the antidote to happiness. It’s best friends with comparison. It’s all too common amongst both women & men. Most of my clients, but also many of my friends, spend their days striving for perfectionism.
I’m a recovering perfectionist. Just the other day I caught myself explaining that I’m not perfect at being imperfect – what a “perfect” oxymoron!! Old habits are hard to break & sometimes I find myself slumping back into modes where I’m striving for something that isn’t serving me, but for the most part I’m less concerned with this elusive thing we label “perfection”.
I’ve had countless people “admit” their perfectionist traits to me recently & I’ve noticed some common trends.
1. It seems to be something people are ashamed of but don’t know how to recover from.
2. It is deeply connected to comparison, particularly in a consumer society that spends so much time on social media.
3. It is closely intertwined with perception. Our perception of ourselves, our perception of others & even how we think others will perceive us! Read on…
I’m a summer-kind-of-girl. The clocks turning back to end daylight saving is my reminder that the season of cold is coming. I know I’m not alone, and this is in Sydney where it barely gets in the single digits! So as days at the beach become rare & the long sleeves appear it’s easy to get a bit demotivated & nostalgic for sand & salt.
I don’t remember having the same hesitations as a child. Back then winter was a time to get the raincoat on & play in the puddles. Fun was had no matter what season. I think it’s time to update the mindset & embrace winter for what it is – cozy & an opportunity to enjoy some downtime without feeling like your missing out on the sunshine.
Recently I read a blog over at Darling which resonated with me & was on this very theme (link at bottom). Apparently there is a Danish word – Hygge – similar to cozy and according to the Danes it’s “a sense of warmth, of togetherness, of intimacy and wellbeing.” I love this! It puts a whole new spin on winter – almost makes it irresistible!
So this year instead of wishing winter be over, lets embrace it. I’m going to enjoy every moment of curling up by a fire with a hot cup of tea or glass of red wine, initiate dinner parties at home full of vibrant conversation with friends and bounce out of bed for a walk in the crisp winter air.
Are you ready to embrace winter too?
What is it? Enjoyment, amusement or light-hearted pleasure.
Benefits: Relieves stress, improves brain function, boosts creativity, increases energy & improves connection with others.
Interesting fact: Laughter is contagious thanks to mirror neurons which cause us to mimic other people when smiling or laughing.
How to: Create art, play ball or frisbee in the park, make music, play your favourite board game, get out with your children or pet, or host a dinner with light-hearted friends.