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Winter Wonder

April 17, 2016
Winter fog

I’m a summer-kind-of-girl. The clocks turning back to end daylight saving is my reminder that the season of cold is coming. I know I’m not alone, and this is in Sydney where it barely gets in the single digits! So as days at the beach become rare & the long sleeves appear it’s easy to get a bit demotivated & nostalgic for sand & salt. 

I don’t remember having the same hesitations as a child. Back then winter was a time to get the raincoat on & play in the puddles. Fun was had no matter what season. I think it’s time to update the mindset & embrace winter for what it is – cozy & an opportunity to enjoy some downtime without feeling like your missing out on the sunshine.

Recently I read a blog over at Darling which resonated with me & was on this very theme (link at bottom). Apparently there is a Danish word – Hygge – similar to cozy and according to the Danes it’s “a sense of warmth, of togetherness, of intimacy and wellbeing.” I love this! It puts a whole new spin on winter – almost makes it irresistible!

So this year instead of wishing winter be over, lets embrace it. I’m going to enjoy every moment of curling up by a fire with a hot cup of tea or glass of red wine, initiate dinner parties at home full of vibrant conversation with friends and bounce out of bed for a walk in the crisp winter air.

Are you ready to embrace winter too?

M x

http://darlingmagazine.org/why-embracing-hygge-will-radically-change-your-winter/

Hello Feelings

April 3, 2016
Feelings Light

How often do you check in with your feelings? I mean truly recognise exactly what is happening in your emotional & physical body. 

Last year when I was overseas I attended a workshop on energy – as in personal energy – & it kicked off by introducing yourself & naming the emotion you were feeling about being there. I found it quite challenging to even think of a range of emotions, let alone label one that summarised how I was feeling. It sparked a lot of discussion & resulted in tears from some of the participants who they realised it was years since they had been really aware of their feelings. This theme has since presented, or I have become more aware of it, many times in many forms – books, movies, articles & conversations.

Most of us find it easier to recognise feelings in our physical body, unfortunately particularly negative changes. It’s hard to hide muscle or joint pain & quite natural to recognise if our shoulders are relaxed or we become more flexible. Interestingly though many people, in particular adults, do not check in on their emotional wellbeing often. We ask children how they feel & worry about how others feel, but do we stop & ask ourselves the same questions often enough?

The most common responses I hear when I ask “How are you?” is “stressed”, “tired” or “busy”. These are states of being rather than states of emotional wellbeing. Since updating the question to “How are you feeling?” the response hasn’t drastically changed, but when pressed to answer with emotion many people I speak with are stumped. Lots of us have default emotions we quickly name – sad, happy, disappointed, content, frustrated – but often we hide behind this without really noticing how we feel. Checking in with your emotions & delving into why you feel that way instigates greater awareness, change & growth. I’m sure it’s why therapy is so helpful for many people.

How can you make it a habit to check in with your own emotions? And the emotions of those closest to you? Could you create a practice of naming how you feel upon waking, sitting at the dinner table or before bed?

To make it easier here’s a list of some feelings to consider:
accepted, angry, anxious, bored, compassion, confused, content, courageous, critical, curious, disappointed, distant, eager, embarrassed, empty, energetic, excited, fearful, frustrated, fulfilled, generous, guilty, heartbroken, hopeful, humiliated, hurt, ignored, important, inadequate, insecure, inspired, irritated, isolated, jealous, joyful, judgemental, lonely, loving, loved, mad, nostalgia, optimistic, overwhelmed, peaceful, playful, powerful, powerless, proud, regret, rejected, remorseful, resentful, respected, scared, sensitive, shocked, shamed, threatened, vulnerable, worried.

I personally have found it quite fun & so interesting to practice this more within myself & to start these conversations with people around me. It’s challenging at first but the awareness & behaviour changes that come with this practice is really quite amazing.

M x

Ingredient of the Week: Fun

March 13, 2016
Monkey laughing

What is it? Enjoyment, amusement or light-hearted pleasure.

Benefits: Relieves stress, improves brain function, boosts creativity, increases energy & improves connection with others.

Interesting fact: Laughter is contagious thanks to mirror neurons which cause us to mimic other people when smiling or laughing.

How to: Create art, play ball or frisbee in the park, make music, play your favourite board game, get out with your children or pet, or host a dinner with light-hearted friends.